Stimulating the G-spot

The G-spot could be compared to a sort of Holy Grail of sexual pleasure for women, while the men who look for it are knights errant trying to obtain the highest sexual satisfaction possible for their ladies. Many couples have spent hours trying to find the magic pleasure spot, mostly because there is something inherently alluring about mastering a way of boosting pleasure beyond the regular orgasm. And we all know that once you’ve found the hot spot, the gates of pleasure are wide open.

Any person who’s tried to stimulate the G-spot knows that it is located on the vagina wall, toward the pelvic bone and that in order to reach it one must insert a finger and then bend it upwards. This is by far the easiest way to find the G-spot and to stimulate it. Once you’re there, you can either move the finger as though you’re scratching something (don’t use your nails, though) or in little circles in order to cover a wider area. Come to think of it, better use two fingers on the G-spot, to get the most pleasure out of the whole thing. While you’re at it, you can also use a finger or your tongue on the clitoris or, if you’re feeling in a perky mood, put a finger up her anus.

There is not a lot of room for imagination and improvement when it comes to playing with the G-spot. The man can use his fingers, some sex toys or his penis, while the woman can stimulate herself using her fingers or toys. Of course, the sex toys must be appropriate for this activity, which means that you need a dildo or vibrator with a hooked or bent tip that makes it easier to reach the G-spot. Don’t move the toy around too much and don’t try to make circles with the tip. Toys are harder to use than fingers, so try to move the tip back and forward over the spot, while adding a little pressure. Your partner will certainly let you know if what you do feels good or not.

The playful lover knows that he can also reach the G-spot with his penis, although the thing is a bit trickier than just moving a finger around. You and your lady must try a couple of different positions in order to find those that allow you to give the G-spot a good rubbing. Doggy style comes to mind, because the penis can rub against that sensitive patch of flesh both when going in and when pulling out. Of course, the positions featuring the woman on top are also very good because the lady can adjust the angle of insertion to make sure that the penis takes the correct route.

So there you have them, the three options for the bold lovers who are not content with regular sex, but are interested in discovering new ways of pleasing each other. And there’s probably no better way of pleasing a woman that full stimulation of both the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. Men should not be ashamed to ask the ladies to help them locate the G-spot, especially since the ladies will certainly be eager to help. After all, it’s in their best interest.

• Does the G-spot exist?
• How to find the G-spot?

How to find the G-spot?

If you’re looking for the G-spot, you should know that this famous spot is a small area behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra. This little area is highly sensitive and the source of much sexual pleasure for some women, as the penis going inside the vagina rubs against the G-spot. In order to stimulate the G-Spot, men should position their penis for a thrust that is opposite to clitoris stimulation. A penis that curves upward has the perfect shape to strike the vagina wall in the area around the G-Spot, while men with downward curvatures may want to try the doggy style.

And now let’s move on to the practical part of the talk around the G-spot. I’m sure that you are eager to get right down to it and get your hands (or at least a finger) on the little bugger. Some men see this as a challenge and as something of a duty because they think it their duty to give their ladies the best possible orgasms. And that simply has to include a bull’s eye hit on the G-spot during every sex session. Stimulation of the G-Spot has also seen heavy use at the hands of sex experts who promote it as a bonus for happy couples and a true miracle for men who fail to please their ladies.

One of the things you want to keep an eye on is your lady’s reaction. As you get closer to the spot, she might instinctively pull back to avoid the direct stimulation of that sensitive spot. This could get you off the course and searching in the wrong area. You also want to begin the search only after your partner has been properly aroused. You could even wait until she had an orgasm and take it from there. The more aroused the woman, the more likely she is to feel the difference in sensation between the G-spot and the rest of the vaginal wall. Apply firm pressure and watch your lady’s reactions. She will guide you to the target.

The G-Spot can also be stimulated using the finger or tongue. It would require a 1 to 3-inch penetration of the vagina. No exact distance can be given since it varies from one woman to another. Experts found that changes in tissue structure occurring beyond the age of 30 make the G-Spot easier to reach. This is why some women in their thirties believe they are experiencing their sexual peak. The fingers are your best bet anytime, but there are also specially designed vibrators that can be used for stimulation. However, it is preferable to find the G-spot first with your fingers and then start poking around with the vibrator.

And finally, don’t be depressed if you failed to find it on the first try. Just think that you get more than one chance to finger your lady at will. Work on it and you will discover the G-spot sooner or later. On the other hand, if your lady simply lacks the higher sensitivity in that particular area, then that’s that. Don’t despair; there are other ways of dealing with the situation. You can always rely on the clitoris, the only organ dedicated exclusively to sexual pleasure, to get your lady over the edge and put a smile on her face.

• Does the G-spot exist?
• Stimulating the G-spot

Does the G-spot exist?

I know that some people are going to find this hard to believe, but more than 60 years after gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg first spoke of the existence of a highly sensitive spot on the vagina wall, the famous G-spot is still the subject of debate. Experts have yet to agree on whether the G-spot actually exists or not. Some say it does, some say it doesn’t. One of roots of the issue is the fact that Grafenberg has never published any evidence to support his claim. For 62 years many experts have simply assumed that he knew what he was talking about.

The G-spot has been regarded as a sort of magic button that would allow any woman to reach orgasm through vaginal stimulation. This is what led at least one of the leading sex therapists in the U.S.A. to suspect that Doctor Grafenberg might have been influenced by Sigmund Freud’s belief that orgasms obtained outside vaginal intercourse are not mature. However, there is no way of knowing what evidence prompted Grafenberg to announce the existence of the sensitive area that still bears his name.

The thing itself is supposed to be a highly sensitive area located a few inches inside the front wall of the vagina and a huge number of men and women have chased this elusive spot with mixed results. A study focusing on biopsies of women failed to find a significant increase in nerve endings in the area where the G-spot is supposed to be located. On the other hand, a study conducted by Doctor Terence Hines, from Pace University’s Department of Psychology, aimed to provide a clear answer to the question. Eleven women were examined by two gynecologists, who concluded that four of the women did indeed have G-spots.

This goes to prove that no two human beings are built exactly the same. The pleasure one woman feels from having a penis rub over her G-spot, is not necessarily felt by other women. Unfortunately, the myth of the G-spot is firmly entrenched in the pop culture of our times and many women and men have experienced frustration at their failure to find the spot in question. As the studies mentioned above have shown, not all women are born with a high enough sensitivity in that part of the vaginal wall, while still others have no special sensitivity in the G-spot at all.

The bottom line is that women who can’t find this famous spot behind their pubic bones should not despair. It simply means that that particular area is not highly sensitive, which is no big loss. The clitoris is enough for a lifetime of orgasms and you don’t have to spend hours looking for it. On the other hand, if you are one of the women who has a G-spot, then kudos to you. You have a way of making intercourse even more pleasurable and you’re not likely to get bored in bed if your partner knows his way around G-spot stimulation.

• How to find the G-spot?
• Stimulating the G-spot